Do You Have A Toothache Is There a Cure For Loneliness?

Do You Have A Toothache

Is There a Cure For Loneliness?



Be strong and courageous, don’t be afraid, nor be scared of them: for Yahweh your God, he it is who does go with you; he will not fail you, nor forsake you.” Deu 31:6



The hardest thing for me in the last few years has been coping with loneliness. Sometimes loneliness is a temporary condition that departs in a few hours or a couple days. But when you're burdened with this emotion for weeks, months, or even years, it's definitely telling you something.



In a sense, loneliness is like a toothache: It's a warning signal that something is wrong. And like a toothache, if left unattended, it usually gets worse. Your first response to loneliness may be to self-medicate - to try home remedies to make it go away.



Busyness Therapy.
You may think that if you fill your life with so many activities that you don't have time to think about your loneliness, you'll be cured. But busyness misses the message. It's like trying to heal a toothache by taking your mind off it. Busyness is only a distraction, not a cure.



Buying Therapy.
Maybe if you purchase something new, if you "reward" yourself, you'll feel better. And surprisingly, you do feel better - but only for a short while. Buying things to fix your loneliness is like an anesthetic. Sooner or later the numbing effect wears off. Then the pain comes back as strong as ever. Buying can also compound your problems with a mountain of credit card debt.



Bed Therapy
You may believe that intimacy is what you need, so you make an unwise choice with sex. Like the prodigal son, after you come to your senses, you're horrified to discover that this attempt at a cure not only makes loneliness worse, it also makes you feel desperate and cheap. This is the false cure of our modern culture, which promotes sex as a game, as recreation. This response to loneliness always ends in feelings of alienation and regret.



The Best Advise
When all these approaches don't work, you may ask, is there a cure for loneliness?

We need to begin with a correct interpretation of this warning signal. Loneliness is God's way of telling you that you have a relationship problem. While that may seem obvious, there's more to it than just surrounding yourself with people. Doing that is the same as busyness, but using crowds instead of activities.



God's answer to loneliness is not the quantity of your relationships, but the quality.



How is your relationship with God? Is it close and intimate, like that of a loving, caring father and his child? Or is your relationship with God cold and distant, only superficial?



Loneliness is God's way, first, of drawing us closer to him, then forcing us to reach out to other people.



Be A Friend
Friendship requires giving, but it also requires taking, and many of us would rather be independent. Yet the persistence of your loneliness should tell you that your past stubbornness hasn't worked either.



If you muster the courage to restore your relationship with God, then with others, you'll find your loneliness lifting. This is not a spiritual Band-Aid, but a real cure that works.



Your risks toward others will be rewarded. You'll find someone who understands and cares, and you'll find others whom you understand and care about as well. Like a visit to the dentist, this cure turns out to be not only final, but much less painful than you feared.



Be Prayerful
Even though it’s hard to see through tears that you now cry, Just know that there will come a day when your tears, He will dry. And though words alone won’t ease the pain that you now feel, Just know that in time, your heart, God will heal.



I pray that God will give you peace, and strength in your heart As He holds you in His arms, and from you, He won’t depart. May you always be encouraged, may you ever hold on. And remember, "My child, you're not alone." GOD IS ALWAYS THERE… AMEN


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